one isn't such a lonely number

I was told that I needed to write entries that are more exciting, or juicier from some of my readers. Well, I'm still gonna write those informational, what's going on in my life type entry, you just gotta live with it. However, I'm feeling up for one of those relationship entries today, so yeah stop complaining. The thing is, the topic today isn't about anything to do with a relationship, but the stage before. Singlehood, my friends. A great stage to be in, you just gotta see the bigger picture, and I'm here to open your eyes.

We live in a world where relationships seem like a big deal. We are in fact social beings and when it comes to the opposite sex, there's always that attraction and longing to be with one another. Also when you get to a good age like during your twenties, it seems like a lot of your friends are in a relationship, or even getting married. At times, you see what they have, and a part of you wants the same thing. You see pictures, you hear stories, and all the good things that come with a relationship, and you wish you had something like that in your life. The thing you're missing is that what you have right now, being single, is an awesome thing. Superficially, I can name you a lot of pros for being single. You don't have to spend money on another person, you don't have to make time for another person, you are not doubting yourself whether this person is the right person, and the list can go on. Like I said though, those things are superficial, and the main focus was a selfish motive. A great reason why being single is awesome is because during this time, you get to learn a lot about yourself and in turn grow in maturity.

There's the saying that fools rush in. This can be said about people who rush into a relationship. I'm not saying that it might not end up well, but doing something just because it feels right or you want to, may not be the wisest decision, and there's two people involved. Even looking back on my past, I can safely say that I was hasty in going into some of my previous relationships. It was just a "in the moment" type of thing, but hey I gotta learn from my experiences. This is where maturity and learning about yourself comes in. I'm not telling you to not be in a relationship, but rather know why you're going into one in the first place. Knowing your intentions/motives, but more importantly your life plans, a significant other might or might not fit during that time. Some people who ready this, will prolly think, "Oh, so in a sense being single is me getting ready for a relationship, what does it mean to be ready?" If I knew the answer to that question, I would be a happy person. Trust me. All I can tell you though is that being ready is going to look different for everyone. You might have this "checklist", but you will never be fully ready as you would hope for. Just don't compromise the things that are important to you and your life.

Being single is great. You have more time with your friends, you get to do accomplish things that you couldn't being tied down, and you will learn how to be selfless after seeing how selfish we are because in the next stage you can't do that. Also, haven't you heard patience is a virtue? Haha believe me, you can't have enough patience. Somehow you always seem to need more. Yeah, I'm still human, sure there's someone in mind, and sure I think about relationships, but in a way happiness isn't having what you want, but wanting what you already have. So instead of worrying about girls/guys, work on yourself, strive to be better so that someday you enjoyment of being single will bring enjoyment into another person's life.