it's just temporary

two and a half years ago i wrote this mildly humorous yet truthful post.

"It's not my fault I fell in love...You are the one that tripped me

looking at the title above it is safe to say that one party has blamed the other for their fall into love. it is so often in a relationship that the blame game takes place over meaningless to important things. if things aren't cleared up and continue to be ambiguous, the end of the relationship is the only thing certain. i see miscommunication or even no communication all the time in relationships, by accident or on purpose, however if you want the relationship to grow and hopefully last a lil longer then avoid or minimize it. In the next few passages I will place scenarios, give tips and answer questions on the topic.

One scenario that i see most often is when the boy/girl don't talk to each other anymore for whatever reason. Instead of approaching the other person, they go complain to their friends and most likely make up a reason on why they aren't talking anymore. First off save your friends from hearing complaint after complaint on the same topic. Use that time to think of what you need to say to the other person and talk to them about what's going on. I know it may be awkward or even frightening to approach someone on how you really feel, but this is a significant other we are talking about. They should be understanding to your feelings and vice versa. My point is do not prolong the problem, but be proactive to strive towards a solution.

Another scenario that always seem to happen it wordplay / misinterpretation of something said. When one person doesn't clearly state what is on their mind, they leave too much room for the other person to piece the rest of the puzzle. For example, Person A asks, "how are you doing?" Person B replies with, "oh i'm alright" even though something is up. Person A sees this and asks, "are you sure? you seem like you have something on your mind." Person B replies with, "yea it's nothing..." Many of you prolly assume that Person B is a guy because "guys don't care that much or they shrug it off". I assure you these situations happen to both sides so all these are looked upon objectively, placing the fault on the people not the gender. With that said, being vague in these situations does not help. If something is pulling at your heart to say something, it's doing it for a reason. The longer you hold it in, the more hurt you and your other will feel. Closure is better than regret. The saddest summary of a life contains three descriptions: could have, might have, and should have. "

Naturally I am a thinker, that's who i am. could have, might have, should have: all thoughts running through my mind. There comes a point where I run many different scenarios in my head, thinking what would have happen. But the thing is this, even if I did run a million scenarios, the outcome is the same. It doesn't change the fact. What's done is done. I like to say that I live my life with no regrets. That I accept every outcome because in the end, I have to. Do I understand everything? hell no. Sometimes I think it's better off to just acknowledge what has happened, and not spend too much time thinking about it because it can lead to frustration. There's always that struggle between, how much you think about it though. Think too much, you're paranoid, think too little, you're heartless. Finding the balance is key. Key to keeping my mind sane and unadulterated cuz it's time to get back to work. There's a lot to accomplish.