second chances

A friend wanted me to write about second chances. Not just second chances in general, but second chances when it comes to relationships. I'll tell you right off the bat, I'm all for second chances. There's an aspect of forgiveness, mercy, etc. However, there are circumstances in which a second chance might not be granted due to various reasons , and that's understandable. Even though I am for second chances, I realize the possibility of one is rare. Not included within the second chances realm are those couples that go on breaks, but they still talk to each other and then eventually get back together. Nah, I'm talking about people who broke up, went to minimal contact with each other, and then realized later on that maybe they were meant for each other or try to work out those differences/reasons they broke up in the first place. Haha it's no wonder it's so rare, after reading that last sentence, there has to be a lot of recognizing and action taking place. Also the fact that both people need to be on the same page after they weren't makes it seem even harder. I'm not trying to discourage you by this, but to offer the reality of the situation. However, what does it take for a second chance to happen? Well this is the part my friend wanted me to address.

Seeing that in most cases of a break up, a breach of trust/understanding surfaces as the reason for the split. Something was done or even not done to affect the person's mind and heart about the other person. Because of this case, the person has a lot to prove to the other person. It takes humility for both parties. The person who is at "fault/wrong" must realize what they did was wrong, and must have the desire to change. At same time, the person who was wronged, must not be jaded and accept the fact that there is progress in the change. Instead of thinking that the other person won't change and just leave it at that. This is the surface of what it looks like, to go in depth is the hard work, dedication, and action poured in. Some may have it easier than others, maybe it is meant to be for some.

There's usually two adages that go with second chances. The first one is "never say never" and the second one is "if it's really meant to be, it will happen". I fully believe in both. Yes you can never say never, because you really don't know what can happen. However, you can get close to never by closing doors/opportunities. It just comes down to making choices and picking what path you're gonna take. With the second adage, it's easy to believe that if something is meant to be it will happen. That's awesome to think that. But once again, it comes down to your choices. Even if it was meant to be, you can't just sit back, do nothing, and know that it's gonna happen. I do agree that sometimes being proactive is taking a step back, but there has to be a point in time where being proactive means action. In the end it's about sticking to what you decide to act out. I was talking to a friend about this and told them, "There's always the possibility, but know your priorities." I know what mine are, do you?